Tuesday, August 04, 2009
One classic approach to psychotherapy is the cognitive therapy of Rational-Emotive Therapy (RET) created by Albert Ellis. In this paradigm, one's psychological distress is seen as a result of one's thoughts and beliefs. People's thinking and perception of what they encounter in life generate the emotions that they feel. Whatever happens in our lives has no inherent meaning - all experiences and events are neutral until the observer or experiencer interprets them according to that individual's cognitive structure of values, beliefs, and judgments. When people can reinterpret experiences from a new perspective then the psyche changes. RET focuses on consciously re-examining one's beliefs and thoughts. Other therapeutic approaches have been developed that focus on shifting how people process experiences on an unconscious level. Hypnosis is one popular therapy that fosters changes on a subconscious level of one's mind.
One excellent example of how we can change our experience of life by changing our beliefs and perspective is seen in the Oscar-winning Italian film "Life is Beautiful." In the movie a father and son are subjected to a Nazi concentration camp. The father pretends that they are really there playing a sort of game, leaving the child oblivious to the danger faced by those contained in the camp. In that situation the child would not be able to change anything in the external environment even if he did have a more accurate view of the circumstances, so his father's clever act spared the child fear and distress that would arise in those who perceived things as negative.
Many people become habitual "negative" perceivers, focusing on seeing disappointment, failure, and loss in their life experiences. Others learn to see experiences as learning opportunities and the inevitable changes and losses in life as valuable catalysts leading to personal growth and new endeavors. In those situations, a person's self-concept and identity are shaping their experience. Those highly attached to material goods and status are vulnerable to experiencing feelings of depression and loss, or fears of loss that haven't even occurred. Those with a more sage, spiritual perspective are better able to see how life is not punishing them or making them suffer but is instead providing challenges and opportunities to develop skills and master life lessons.
A popular set of ideas to help people shift their identity, beliefs, and perspective comes from the book If Life Is A Game, These Are The Rules, by Dr. Cherie Carter-Scott.
The Ten Rules For Being Human
Rule One - You will receive a body.
You may love it or hate it, but it will be yours for the duration of your life on Earth.
Rule Two - You will be presented with lessons.
You are enrolled in a full-time informal school called "life". Each day in this school you will have the opportunity to learn lessons. You may like the lessons or hate them, but you have designed them as part of your curriculum.
Rule Three - There are no mistakes, only lessons.
Growth is a process of experimentation, a series of trials, errors and occasional victories. The failed experiments are as much as a part of the process as the experiments that work.
Rule Four - The lesson is repeated until learned.
Lessons will be repeated to you in various forms until you have learned them. When you have learned them, you can go on to the next lesson.
Rule Five - Learning does not end.
There is no part of life that does not contain lessons. If you are alive, there are lessons to be learned.
Rule Six - "There" is no better than "here".
When your "there" has become "here" you will simply obtain another "there" that will look better to you than your present "here".
Rule Seven - Others are only mirrors of you.
You cannot love or hate something about another person unless it reflects something you love or hate about yourself.
Rule Eight - What you make of your life is up to you.
You have all the tools and resources you need. What you do with them is up to you.
Rule Nine - Your answers lie inside of you.
All you need to do is look, listen, and trust.
Rule Ten - You will forget all this at birth.
You can remember it if you want by unraveling the double helic of inner-knowing.
A similar set of guidelines are shared by Ron & Denny Reynolds in their book The New Perspective.
Ten Tools for Self-Transformation
Your beliefs create your reality.
1. Change your beliefs, change your reality.
There are only two forces in the universe: Love and fear.
2. Choose love and choose love again.
Your Higher Self always has your greater good in mind.
3. The universe unfolds as it should 100% of the time.
Your Higher Self will keep things on your agenda until you get it.
4. Things you resist tend to persist.
What you put your attention on expands.
5. Focus on what you have, rather than what you don't have.
What you put out is what you get back.
6. Do what excites you the most.
You only lose by the amount of doubt you have.
7. Be willing to take a leap of faith.
It's done with mirrors.
8. Everything is a symbolic reflection.
The only time there is… is Now.
9. The power is in the present moment.
There is only one of us: God, Goddess, All that Is.
10. All is one...One is all.
Jed Shlackman, LMHC, C.Ht. is author of Consciousness, Creation, And Existence: A Guide To The Grand Adventure. Learn more at www.phinsights.com