Center for Relationship Healing & Great Marriages

Have you noticed an increased amount of stress or fear in your life or marriage, since all the “disaster” financial news has been in the media lately? 

If so, you are not alone.   For many people, stress, worry or fear often shows up in the area of their marriages during times of heightened general stress, especially if they have a personal stress response style that makes them prone to pulling apart or blaming their spouse during difficult experiences.

Financial stress can be particularly difficult for many couples.  The reasons for this stem the fact that money is one of the most common hot topics within marriages.  Many people attach so much “baggage” to money that it is difficult for them to deal with the topic of money in a calm, clear, and non-reactive manner.  For many people, money subconsciously symbolizes security, control, winning, or being successful in their family role.  In American culture, we often equate having lots of money with personal, not just business, success.   Some even equate financial prosperity with personal righteousness, or indicating having God’s approval. 

These attachments and symbolisms about the meaning of money are often tied to our most basic human needs for security and safety in the world.    We learn at an early age, and our culture certainly reinforces, that we can’t survive very well without those things that money buys! 

So it is understandable that you or your spouse may feel worried or frightened by all the “disaster” financial news; if your sense of security and safety feels threatened, you may feel it on a deep, often survival level.

The above excerpt is from the latest issue of Creating Joy!  my FREE monthly e-newsletter, all about ending your relationship problems, and creating a lasting, happy marriage.  To read the rest of the article, including learning:

1.     Why fear and conflict about money problems can be such a hot topic in marriage
2.     Why money problems trigger Primal (survival) Fear
3.     My 6-Step Plan for Healing and Protecting Your Marriage from Fears about Money Problems

subscribe to Creating Joy! today. 

Warmly,
Debra Gordy

Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach
Author of the forthcoming book  Cinderella Wisdom:  Five Secrets for Creating Your Dream Marriage in the Real World.

www.DebraGordyMS.com

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Transformational Therapy™ and Transformational Coaching™ are integrative means of facilitating deep and lasting healing, growth, and change from within the individual.  I was blessed with the basic vision, and led to the specific metholodogies to include.  It is an evolving, growing paradigm, which falls within the general category of Holistic or Complementary Healing, Self-growth and Personal Empowerment.  


The Beginnings of Transformational Therapy and Coaching

The roots of Transformational Therapy™ and Transformational Coaching™ come from Systemic, Structual-Strategic and Modern Psychodynamic Family Therapy and the Human Potential Movement of the 1980 - 90's.  The theoretical foundations of Transformational Therapy and Coaching are:

1. Holistic: recognizing and encompassing the whole being of the person - spirit, mind and body - reflecting the fundamental, profound and basic Truth, that all beings at their essence are whole, and always have been.  
2. Spiritual: the foundation of all life.   All growth and creation is ultimately spiritual.  This is the source of the power to change.   All change happens first spiritually. 
3. Systemic:  We are part of a living web of living social systems.  These systems include our immediate families, the families we grew up in, our past generations, our social groups, communities, nations and the Family of Humankind.  These systems grow and change over time, and even across time and space.  As we change, we influence and change our systems, and as the systems we belong to change, we too are influenced.  All life is communal, including the very smallest level of the sub-atomic particle at the cellular level.   
4. Developmental:  Growth occurs in an orderly process that moves from one level to the next, across the lifespan.   The capacity to grow is inborn and natural, and all beings have the capacity for enlargement and expansion.  Development can be detoured or derailed by traumatic experiences.   In fact, much of what may be considered 'abnormal' in behavior, emotions or personality, is really a response to traumatic experiences.  When the trauma residue and impact is cleared and healed, growth and development can be returned to the natural and normal progression, since growth is an expression of the inherent Intelligence governing all life.  
5. Post-feminist:  The time in which we live is the most auspicious time in the history of the planet!  This is the time of restoring the authentic Feminine in balance with the Masculine, which has been in dominance, and out of balance for so many millenia.   Both genders complete and complement the other, and neither is sufficient alone. 
   
   Now is the time for genuine equality, respect, balance, support, inter-dependence and inclusion for the gifts, strengths, talents and perspective of both Feminine and Masculine in order to bring our planet and our human family into the next phase of our planet's purpose.   As women come to experience, know, and claim our true Feminine Identity and Divinity, we will each play our part in the healing and restoration of our marriages, families, and the entire planet.  

Going Deeper - Learning More

Transformational Therapy™ is explained further in articles on the Articles page at www.DebraGordyMS.com.   These will give you an overview of Energy Psychology, one of the general components of Transformational Therapy™ and Transformational Coaching™, and Rapid Eye Technology, one of the centerpiece healing and creating methods that I use.   These articles are entitled:

1.  Introduction to Energy Psychology ~ Cutting-edge Tools for Lasting Change
2. Rapid Eye Technology ~  A Unique, Unparalleled Healing Method Creating Lasting Change
3. Releasing the Limiting Effects of Your Earliest Experiences

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The Living Happily Ever After! teleclass series is a monthly FREE teleclass, combining laser Transformational Life Coaching™ with easy-to-use Transformational Self-help tips and techniques to help you release pain, anger, stress, and to help you create more happiness, peace and true thriving in your relationships day to day. 

Teleclasses are held monthly, usually on the fourth Thursday evening, with some variations to accommodate for the holidays.

All teleclasses are held from 7:00 - 8:00 pm, Mountain Time.   The date and topic for the next teleclass is:

Nov. 20, 2008:  How to Make Room in Your Heart & Life for Love 

Whether you are married, single or divorced, if you are ready for more love in your life, then join me for this energizing, hope-filled and empowering FREE teleclass. 

You will learn:

• Three common, deadly mistakes singles make when beginning a new relationship
• Two traps that married couples get into, that can decrease or even DRY UP the flow of love in your marriage
  
  
• Why lingering relationship pain or conflict blocks the flow of love in your life
• Debra's 5-Step Process for Releasing Pain, Hurt, Anger, and other love-depleting emotions
• How to open your heart to allow love to flow freely.
  
  
• MORE!

To participate, register on my website.   Space is limited, so register today! 

Warmly,

Debra

Transformational Relationship Therapist & Coach

Author of Cinderella Wisdom:  Five Secrets for Creating Your Dream Marriage in the Real World

www.DebraGordyMS.com

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The Law of Attractions is all the buzz right now - in movies, books, and all over the internet.  Did you know that the basic principles underlying the Law of Attraction can be applied to any area of life, including your business?  

In this insightful, energizing, empowering 1 hour FREE teleclass, Debra shares with participants ten SECRETS for putting the Law of Attraction to work for you, in achieving the business of your dreams.

You will learn:

• How to make any business development or marketing plan you will ever have take flight, and yield AWESOME results for you!
• The SECRET to learning how to step out of struggle in your business, and into thriving, abundance and success, irregardless of outside forces.
  
   
• Why competition is a MYTH, and what that means for your business!
  
   
• The hidden inner force, that makes everything flow and success come to you easily and gracefully.
  
   
• Why creating your success from the "inside out" matters now, more than ever!
  
   
• MORE!!
  

Date:  Nov. 13, 2008
Time:  7:00 - 8:00pm, Mountain Time
Location:  The comfort and convenience of your own home!

How to sign up to participate:  Follow the link below to sign up.

Space is limited so, enroll Today!

www.DebraGordyMS.com

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