These days I work a lot with
clients coming to psychotherapy with issues related to addiction. These people are often struggling with
dependence on alcohol, marijuana, pornography, sex, food and other habitual
behaviors. They often feel stuck with these behaviors and may have made
attempts to stop that failed in the past. Sometimes, these behaviors do not
register as problems in their life.
Sometimes the problems these behaviors cause are glaringly apparent (a
DUI, getting fired from work).
It seems to me that in my 15
plus years of doing psychotherapy, there is a greater number of clients now
presenting with these conditions than ever before. Perhaps there are various reasons for this. Modern life has gotten particularly
complicated and high pressured. The
economy for several years now has been a source of a great deal of stress for
people struggling to just stay afloat.
And the access to the things that people may abuse has, especially
through the prominence of the internet, gone (to use an internet term) viral.
I do not believe in
one-size-fits-all explanations for what drives a person toward addiction. With
each of my clients, we must do the hard work of inquiring into the meaning of
these behaviors. And then there is more
hard work of together figuring out how to replace these habits with ones that
will be truly more helpful and less self-injurious. The work is difficult; and
all too often the addiction easy. A
central component to addiction is the ease with which it is available. Often
that means just reaching for another glass of alcohol, taking another hit of
pot, surfing the internet.
There can be some confusion
as to what constitutes addiction versus compulsive behavior or for that matter
just problematic behavior. A client may
wonder: Is it an addiction? A compulsion? Often these distinctions fall away as the
client and I search for the meaning of the behaviors. More relevant in our work than finding the
right diagnosis is the attempt to acquire a realistic prospective of the significance
of these behaviors in a person's life and the impact they have on that
life. In general, we can say that in
terms of addiction, a person will habitually indulge in this behavior in ways
that take up a lot of his time, have some negative effect on the other areas of
his life (for example on relationships or in the job setting), and are
difficult to cease (often a person has made several attempts to do so). These then tend to be some signs of an
addiction.
And while each client and I must
learn the meaning of his particular behavior, from my years of experience, I
have come to identify certain key aspects of addictive behavior. These key components tend to be present
regardless of the substance being abused. These components include the addictive
behavior as a strategy for coping with something distressing in a person's
life. And the fact that inherent in
these habits is the idea of instilling control and predictability in one's
life. In future blog entries, I'd like
to expand on these key components and talk about the work of psychotherapy to
deal with addiction and the underlying feelings that addiction is an attempt to
cope with.