Saturday, September 19, 2009
In Jin Shin Jyutsu®, the word "project" is used to refer to what is commonly called a problem, a disease, or a syndrome. I myself like this wording, because it puts things in a larger perspective. It moves things out of the duality of sick/healthy, power/no power. It changes how one views the passage of time in a way, as well. A project is something that one works on consistently, over time, with eventual completion as well as results along the way. This manner of looking at things is especially crucial when one is dealing with something over a long time. Be it chronic pain, heart or other disease, PTSD, anxiety, anything that is one's constant companion can come to seem overwhelming and insurmountable.
For example, a client came to me last week. I commented on how well she looked, and she said, well, she wasn't 100%. My response was, what IS 100%? We don't know what that is, really. We know how things seemed before we were where we are now, how they seemed when we were at a bottom point. Why compare? She smiled at this, relaxed and lightened. The point is to accept, and if possible enjoy, where you are now. In Traditional Chinese Medicine, this can be referred to as "limitations". If you have a weak heart, you do not expect yourself to be a weight lifter, and you do not spend your time unproductively bemoaning the fact that you are not a weight lifter, which has as its' byproduct, further aggravation of the existing limitation. But, if you can go longer without pain medication, if you are less depressed, if you can take more walks than you could before, that is improvement. If you can go places and do things you couldn't before, that is improvement. This is expansion beyond at least a part of the limitation, without denying or resisting it. Improvement is always 100% in itself, in some ways, to my mind anyway. Often this 100% lies in seemingly small things, small activities. It takes quite some time, or some serious trauma, for a chronic condition to develop, and rationally we all know it isn't going to go away over night. But allopathic medicine and pharmaceuticals hold a promise of instant relief. Sometimes it is granted, more often not. Real progress lies in helping the body regain its' composure and balance, so it can heal itself as much as is possible. Certainly this is not easy. But pain and problems grow stronger as we resist them, instead of looking at them as, say, puzzles that we may solve. The puzzle engages us and we learn and move. The thing we resist and fear grows in power and keeps us stuck in one place.
Part of this composure lies in patience with ourselves. Part of it lies in not comparing. Not comparing how we were at 25, or before we "got sick" or x or y happened, with how we are now. Life can be a very challenging school, but it is easier if we can keep ourselves composed and in the present moment. Essential oils, flower essences, and energy body work are all powerful helpers in this work. They aid us in bringing together parts of ourselves that have been cast asunder, and in this lies healing. Healing is not the same thing as a cure, as I have said before. Not everything can be cured. But it can be healed, and if it can be healed it means we can proceed with our lives in greater harmony. Which is a good thing!
Kelley Rico is a trained herbalist and aromatherapist, and a Certified Flower Essence and Jin Shin Jyutsu® Practitioner.