Tuesday, September 22, 2009
So, readers of m

y
blog who have moseyed over to my website and checked out the "Meet
Audrey" page (oh, ok, I'll make it easy for you to check it out:
Meet Audrey
), will know that I coin myself as an "obesity survivor" and "reformed
binge eater." I once weighed 227.5 pounds (well, that was the highest
weight I ever saw on the scale) and was a size 20/22. OK here's a
picture:
It wasn't the result of any medication I was taking
(although I'm sure the antidepressants didn't help my cause), it wasn't
a genetic disorder (although there is a little bit of overweight on my
mom's side of the family), and it wasn't even an issue of monthly PMS
cravings (although the many rounds of antibiotics I had to take for
various dental issues over a couple of years may have tipped the
balance of yeast vs bacteria in the favour of yeast, which can
definitely turn you into a cookie monster).
No, it was none of
those things. Simply put, I ate... and ate, and ate and ate. I started
my days with coffee and donuts or on a good day, a muffin or bagel with
butter. I often skipped lunch, or if I had lunch, it was something
greasy from the cafeteria at work. Mmmm chicken fingers and fries, that
was always my favourite. With plum sauce, mayo and ketchup for dipping.
Oh, and of course with a Diet Coke to wash it all down (it was "Just
for the taste of it!"). Being in a stressful high paced demanding
corporate job, I did often skip lunch (not to mention would even put
off going to the bathroom until my bladder was about to burst, there
was just no time to waste!!! You KNOW something is out of balance if
you can't even take time to pee.). So by mid afternoon, I'd be ready to
eat my right hand. Since I needed it to type with, I would instead opt
for a coffee, and a chocolate bar (or two). Finally, when it was time
to go home, I'd have formulated which version of fast food I felt like
for dinner (pizza? chinese? wings? McDonald's?), and what to get for
snacks later (Zesty Cheese Doritos and Haagen-Dazs were big in my
rotation). Oh and again, don't forget the Diet Coke. I remember when
they had Vanilla Diet Coke on the market. That stuff was GOOD, it was
like a vanilla float. I could easily drink 3 of those in a night to
wash down all the junk food. So I would put on my favourite reality tv
shows, tune out the world and my worries, and have a little party for
one. This was probably easily at least a twice weekly (maybe 3 times?)
ritual.
I may have been self-medicating to deal with some buried
(and not so buried) emotional traumas. But at some point, whatever
started me on that downward spiral was no longer the driving reason
that I continued. At some point, the food addiction took over and I got
stuck. I tried to think my way out of it, to find the reason I couldn't
seem to get a handle on my food intake. I sought counselling. I worked
on my "stuff." And somehow I got more and more depressed and more and
more stuck.
Obviously I found my way out. I share a
little
about that process on my "Meet Audrey" page on my website. It's been a
long, slow journey, with many lonnnnnng plateaus. And really, I'm still
working on it... all in good time. If I've learned anything, it's to
honour the needs of my body, and my Self, and to trust in myself enough
that I can have patience to let it take the time it needs to take. I've
never had one of those giant "change your life in an instant" Aha!
moments. It's been a series of little "Ohhhhhhhh's" and "Hmmmm,
interesting's" that have all added up, so that when I look back now, I
can recognize that I've in fact made real changes, and that I myself am
a different person. I'm not stuck anymore. I'm amazed how much changing
your diet and lifestyle can act as a catalyst to open you up in mind
and spirit as well.
BUT enough about all that. My point today
was to tell you about the New Binge. In this "post-obesity" life of
mine, among other revelations, I've recognized that old habits die
hard. I trained my brain to make those tv-and-binge-night connections
strong and resistant to any wonderfulness that
Kale Chips
might be able to deliver. So occasionally, the urge to binge does still
come over me. Usually it's when things have gotten very stressful and
I'm anxiety-ridden. Often times, it's simply when I've got a great
line-up of Must See TV to catch up on on my PVR. Earlier this year, in
fact, going through a particularly stressful time in my life, the Zesty
Cheese Doritos and Haagen-Dazs got me again and I even gained about 12
pounds over the winter and spring. Finally I'd had enough and I gave
myself a good talking to. "Hood," I said (that's what I call myself
when I'm talking in my head), "You're back in the stuck place. You
started this because of stress and anxiety, and now the addictive
components of these foods have got you hooked again. It's time to start
walking the talk, and use your own strategies on yourself and get out
of this mucky place." It wasn't easy, but I did it. I used my own
strategies (which I cover in my "
Inspire Yourself!"
workshop this Thursday, Sept 24!) and I re-released those 12 pounds,
and broke the allure of the junk food. This is not something I'll ever
be "cured" of. It's something I have learned over the years to manage,
to the tune of keeping me in that small group of 5% of people who
successfully keep off 30+ pounds for 5+ years. I'm pretty proud of that.
SO,
last night, after a trip to my favourite store (Whole Foods in
Oakville), where I had stocked up on lots of nutritilicious fruits,
veggies, whole grains, and some no-antibiotic/no-hormone chicken and
fish, I settled in to watch the Emmy's (it seems I'm really on the
minority side of people who don't get why 30 Rock is so amazing, aside
from the most amazing Tina Fey and Alec Baldwin). And, I wanted
something snacky. And something sweet. Uh oh. I should mention at this
point that while I don't buy or keep in my house those trigger foods
like the Doritos and the Haagen-Dazs, in my condo building there
happens to be a vending machine downstairs. And it has Doritos, and
Peanut Butter Cups, and a smorgasbord of my old junk food party foods.
So what did I do?
Well, first I sat myself down and I said
"Hood, what's up? You just came back from Whole Foods where you found
all these amazing delicious WHOLE natural foods and have a fridge and
pantry stock full of fabulous options. Why are you thinking about
Doritos?" Well, I didn't know why, other than that my "Watching TV at
night and wanting to unwind" old habits were associated with junk food,
and so driving me to want that, even though I no longer prefer those
foods. So I said "OK Hood, you can have it if you want it. But let's
play this out. If you eat it, how are you going to feel after?" My
answer to myself: "Like crap. Disappointed in myself. Bloated.
Zombie-brained. I'll probably sleep terribly. I'll wake up full of
regret." So my next question to myself was "OK, and what if you don't
eat that crap, but find something you have in the house to have as a
snack? Then how will you feel?" And my answer: "I'll feel the same as I
do now (steady energy, mentally sharp and alert, no "grumblies" in the
"lower belly"), but less hungry. I'll feel in control, I'll feel peace
of mind for not eating junk food, I'll wake up feeling motivated to eat
healthfully and will know my workout tomorrow will not be just to make
up for today but will actually move me forward. I'll sleep better. And
I'll feel good about nourishing my body."
So, the verdict? What
did I end up doing? Case closed. I put away the loonies and twonies.
And I wish I'd taken a picture but I didn't realize I'd end up blogging
about this (or how long this blog post would be! If you're still with
me, thanks for reading!). Here's what I had:
- small bowl of Organic Blue Corn tortilla chips with organic salsa
- small (about the size of 2 dominos) piece of raw milk gruyere cheese
- about 10 Raincoast Crisp whole grain crackers (fig & olive) with some organic red pepper jelly and the aforementioned cheese
- small
single serving (about 1/3 cup) of creme brulee (my favourite dessert in
the world, which I had purchased at the prepared baked goods counter at
Whole Foods)
- sparkling mineral water with fresh squeezed lime
Does
that qualify as a binge? Certainly not compared to my past habits. So
let's see. I didn't eat until I was sick, or even until all the food
was gone (I have leftovers of everything except the cheese, which I had
purposely bought in a small amount). My hunger was satisfied, and my
belly felt comfortable. I didn't even feel compelled to eat more, so my
appetite (different from hunger, appetite is really the desire to eat)
was satisfied too. I went to bed comfortably (although I admit I did
notice my heart beating a little bit harder, something I used to feel
to an extreme after binging on foods laced with MSG... And I was a
little gaseous... Both reactions probably due to the cheese and cream
in the brulee, since normally I'm dairy free, and had in fact just come
off 5 days of vegan eating). This morning, I woke up well rested and
without cravings, and without remorse. I noticed my fingers felt a wee
bit "puffy" (and in fact noticed my feet felt a bit puffy last night),
so probably the sodium in the cheese and chips were making me retain a
little water. Otherwise, I felt and feel good and am not craving for
anything.
So no, I don't think that was a binge at all (I might
add too that my dinner was just one very small piece of chicken and
about 1/8 of a cup of couscous so that food was not really on top of a
big meal, but perhaps to supplement a small one). And, what I'm most
pleased about is that my choices did not lead me to want more, and more
and more. I had good quality WHOLE foods, with healthful nourishing
ingredients, including a good dose of healthy fats and whole grain
carbs (and some protein in the cheese). My body was FED, so I'm not
left looking for something else to fill a gap in nutrients. And my
spirit was FED so I'm not left looking for something else to fill up
the lack that deprivation based diets would have created.
So,
thanks for reading this "confession" of a former binger. I hope in the
reading you might have taken away a little something... about how food
really does change your brain, and about the very key role your MIND
plays in changing your lifestyle (and maybe your life as a result)...
And maybe a little inspiration and reminder that if someone who was as
stuck and lost and mired as me can make this happen, no matter how
stuck or lost or mired you're feeling, you too CAN make this happen.
(((((HUGS & PATS ON THE BACK & CHEERS TO YOU ALL)))))