We all have fear, and it can really drive us crazy, can't it?  Yet, what we are afraid of really doesn't come to pass.  It's only a thought in our consciousness that drives us to the edge.  But how do we calm our fears?

You know, I will use different techniques to help me calm and comfort what I'm afraid of.  Sometimes, it is so funny as my ego wants be to be all discombobulated (I think that's a word, and if not, it is now).  My ego becomes enormous when I'm afraid.  Yikes!

Thus, when I have a thought in the present moment, I will spend some time with the fear, and be with it like a child who is afraid and needs comforting.  One thing that I do is from Deepak Chopra's book, The Way of the Wizard.

Deepak recommends that you be with the fear, and this is one way to do it.  You get paper and a pen and start writing from this statement, "I'm afraid of," and fill in the blank.  Don't judge or analyze what you write, just write as if something more powerful is moving through you, and coming to the surface.  You can write for 5 minutes, and believe me, the time will go by fast, and in the blink of an eye, you'll be done.  Remember to breathe in and out while you're doing it, and be conscious of this as well.  You can continue writing beyond the 5 minutes if you desire.

You'll be amazed at what comes up.  Possibly some tears as well as laughter.  It certainly does for me.  It's so cathartic because you get the opportunity to be in relationship with your fears as being part of you, and not separate from you.

Anytime we envision something as separate from, then that's when things go haywire, and we definitely feel it.  It almost feels like you are dying, and that feels awful.  Thus, just write and breathe, and comfort that which you thought was separate from you.

You'll come to appreciate the time you spend with your fears on a regular basis, and meet them and introduce yourself.  It's a fun way to experience them, don't you think?

And one thing to add is the ol' laughorama with your fears too.  It makes life seem much more lighthearted, and the way to BE present in your life.